Longing to Hear Those 3 Magic Words
“I Love You” might not be the most valuable.
The 3 magic words are “I will help.”
“I love you” is more about the person saying it than the person on the recieving end. “I will help” is bigger and more powerful.
Try using them daily in any form and watch the reactions.
- I can help.
- I will help.
- Can I help?
- You’d like help?
- Want a hand?
What’s this got to do with being mastering your life?
Everything.
Remember when someone offered you the ‘wrong’ kind of help: advice when you needed a hand? What did it feel like when someone offered you help when you didn’t expect it?
When people understand you are willing to to help them, or even just hear what they have to say, they relax.
Calm people are more enjoyable and effective than frustrated, tense people.
Sometimes it stops a complainer from complaining under the guise of a conversation by spotlighting they don’t really want help, they just want to vent. That’s fine, as long as you both understand the point.
What’s in it for you?
Your focus turns toward them and away from a habit of dismissing or resistant what they’re talking about or asking for. Resistant attitudes are exhausting and limiting.
Teamwork happens. Negativity reduces. Stalled projects are restarted. Miscommunications clear. Profits happen. People feel better.
Sometimes you know just the thing the need to help them figure out a way to do something more easily. Offering a hand, even if it isn’t your job and maybe especially if it isn’t your job, helps people accomplish more and more quickly than if they’re working solo.
It’s productivity personified.
At the least, it’s good PR for you.
Keep the spirit alive by saying those 3 precious words more often and watch what happens. Challenge your staff and your family to do the same and remember, if you’re the leader, it’s even more important for you to say it.
